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Friday, December 15, 2006

In the company of women

I have had a lot of interaction with the members of the opposite sex and in one sense, i am really mystified. The more I came to know about them, the more i was amazed at their persona. I have come in touch with a number of women, some of them are just girls while others have had a great experience of life. An account of what they face right from their childhood to all the way to their old age, is quite interesting to note.

I know that the masculine gender might feel a bit jealous to read this extolled account, but in some ways, they do have to go through a lot more in their life. Just thinking the way from having to cope up with their regular health cycles, their emotional periods, to all the way up to making another human being in them for nine straight month to managing family and taking care of every person in the family, really makes them special. The way they face all the problems of life, yet have a shining face all throughout. The way they hide all their emotions, yet are full of it really makes them very mysterious! Needless to say that, probably God was also amazed at such a creation.

As a matter of fact, some women I have met have been a real-life inspiration for me. I have a very good friend named 'S'. S had a really tough life right from the starting. She was in love with a guy, but unfortunately, destiny was against her and she had to get married to someone else. Her married life wasn't good and she had to face all its travails. After five miserable years, she opted for divorce with a son. Even after that, she has been through a number of ups and downs, losing people she loved and not getting back love in return. Not to mention the enormous amount of mental trauma she and her family had to face. Still today, whenever i talk to her, i see that same glorified smile in her as though she is totally content with her life. Perhaps she never blames anyone for her misfortunes and continues to live her life with incessant happiness. People like 'S' are really capable of defining the true meaning of life, i.e. Life is short, so why ever be unhappy. Smile, enjoy and make merry.

Then there is this another girl i know, 'A'. This girl really loved my friend but had to leave him because of her parent's wishes. She tried, protested but was never successful. She could have opted to run away with him and have everything what she desired, but she kept her parents' will, happiness and honour in the society before her love. Sometimes, i feel her acts were mean, but then, the truth is that it takes a lot of courage to do something like this. It really takes more than just guts to rip your heart right out and kill all that happiness and i bow to thee.

Come to think of my mom, and how she has faced her problems throughout life and yet been together with the family and taken care of us very well, really makes me love this great woman even more!

I know that guys are nonetheless not weak in any aspect, yet experience has proved it that girls are emotionally very strong in all the matters of life. How they do it, whether they have any secret formula for it, is really beyond my comprehension. But I would re-iterate that they're truely HIS masterpiece. They have their involvement right from their childhood as a sister or friends to being someone's wife one day and then as a mother and grand mother, moulding and nurturing the world in their bosom. I think whoever said it, made a very true statement that "Behind every man's success, there is a woman"

Ladies............ To thou, I salute !! :)

15 Comments:

Blogger Gurmeet Singh said...

Very true...!!

I think, I took some time to understand women and paid a price for it, loosing the one I loved the most. She was like ur friend 'A'.

Saturday, November 25, 2006 4:52:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Gaurav..behind ever man success there is woman is that so...r u not idealizing the theory..there are guys whose life gets wasted coz of just single gal...

btw if m not wrong
r u the gaurav of Pagalguy gaurav20xx or something like that..:)

Monday, May 14, 2007 10:05:00 AM  
Blogger Gaurav said...

@Dream Catcher,

Exceptions will always be there. You have to open ur mind to see where u're heading in life. If someone wastes his life for one girl, then wouldn't he be a fool and not a practical person? In life u've to move on..... It might be generalizing, but its true, isn't it.

p.s. i am :-)

Thursday, May 24, 2007 2:35:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi,

Its nice to see a gentleman openly admitting to the virtues of a woman.....dont get me wrong...lots of men out there admire women and their capabilities, but very few with the genuine admiration that you do.

:)

Thursday, June 28, 2007 3:13:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Hi,
I think that women are more practical than us.....this sometimes make us feel that they are manipulative.....

Monday, January 14, 2008 2:19:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi gaurav,
i am amazed to read these word fm a guy. its good that u respect women so much and i feel u truly understand them. i hv seen very few pl having such gr8 thoughts abt women. i was really moved by yur thoughts. keep up d good work. all d best..

Saturday, October 18, 2008 3:23:00 AM  
Blogger Netika Lumb said...

commendable.. I used to wonder, what is it that makes it so tough for men to accept this..deep down I always knew that they no it, but arnt strong enough to accept it..(no offence meant, this is my observation-not a personal attack)..
though I confess, we do have an edge at times, but one prob always remain-we dont hv a home we can call "ours".. We can make a house a home, but its never "ours".. and I certainly, certainly, obviously dont mean on papers

Friday, November 14, 2008 11:27:00 AM  
Blogger Gaurav said...

@Netika

I believe that men and women are different and even though many women take the delight to call men as 'arrogant, chauvenist, egoistic, etc.' I differ.

Every guy is unique and just like a woman can be extremely narrow minded and egoistic, a guy can be really sweet and caring (believe it or not i've got these last two comments from many girls ;) )

So maybe men are trained to be a little egoistic and not so good with praising (although we do like to praise a gal beyond counts to win her heart :P )

I guess ur answer will lie in some of the books by Dr. John Gray. Check them out !

Friday, November 21, 2008 2:43:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dude, i have seen idiots(girls) talking on their cell phone for hours on some real basic topic giving their stupid comments and wasting time,endangering mental peace of others , also their bfs(idiots of a greater degree) hanging around them peacefully shooing off guys looking at his "lady".

----- what virtue these cute ladies hold?they are born to be dumb , eat away resources , waste time and money and hang around with some other dumb people. u cant assign virtues to some particular gender just like that.
Its stupid men who love to supply greatness to their ladies which have no sense of justification.Their problem be it a nation's problem ,will seem to be huge enough for people to think that she is only one fighting for it. We all fight for survival , we all get screwed , but why only they will get the honour of fighting against odds?they simply love to take the advantage of getting themselves called weak and moan at men who will always be their to cry for them if they are beautiful.

Dude the topic sucks! when idiots rule the world , this is bound to happen.Stop praising.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008 12:56:00 AM  
Blogger Gaurav said...

@Anonymous,

I am not extolling the ladies in vain or to seek to be their goody-goody.

I accept that there are many guys and girls, who spend their time idling about on phone calls lasting hours and spend thousands of bucks each month. I also used to belong to this category of foolishness, till I learnt my lesson. I think we all learn our lesson from mistakes. But does this make all the girls "stupid" ??

I deny that. There are people of various categories, mindset, just like there are various kinds of species on Earth. So calling all the girls as vile because one has had a bad experience from one girl, is not right. One should not give away the power of one's discretion.

Monday, January 26, 2009 1:57:00 AM  
Anonymous neo said...

You are right gaurav about

"But does this make all the girls "stupid" ??"

Same thing Anonymous wants to say as all girls are not stupid similarly all girls are not of very good character deep down their heart their is some selfishness I don`t know if you have seen it, but look around eg.
1. boys are taking care of girls stuff (purses, handbags etc ) and gals are talking to someone else on mobile on some senseless topic.

2.have you seen newly married couple with baby gals hand over babies to guy and relax doing nothing(by this I mean 75%of the time babies are responsibility of guys).
3.old but very very common situation "No money no Honey"
4.Have you seen the girls out their who takes advantage of their good looking body or face to compel you to work for them and when their objective is completed gals don`t even look at the guy(forget about helping back you)
raat gayi baat gayi and then who are you???

These are really very common examples if you really look around you you will find above situation 80% of times, and if this is happening to such a large extent should we praise them????

if you are thinking that I am a misogynist and hence I am writting this please look around you and comprehend the real situation you will find that I am right. particularly about 3 point.

Friday, May 22, 2009 11:08:00 AM  
Blogger Gaurav said...

Dear Neo,

Let us think over this situation pragmatically. No two fingers in our hands are the same, likewise, no two people are the same. Whether girls or guys, they may be very nice and sweet, caring and altruistic to being very mean, cheap and swindlers.

We can't really generalise a number. But yeah, appreciate the good ones and keep away from the bad ones.

We look at filth, we find it choking, we look at beauty, we start appreciating it :-)

So let a bad experience with one girl, not change ur outlook towards all girls.

Saturday, July 04, 2009 11:32:00 AM  
Anonymous Punk Princess said...

Hey Gaurav,
It's always good to hear guys finally giving women their due. Not many men do that, and the saddest part is , even if the gen Y guys praise women, even lesser truly admire them.

I believe a mutual respect is necessary and it shouldn't come through social conditioning rather through self retrospection.

I am not much fan of men from mars, women from venus concept. The author has divided the human race, instead of bridging the gap, every other person quotes him. At some points you need to consider the other as a human being and not as a guy or a girl. I know both think differently upto certain extent but beyond a point it boils to the fundamentally same aspects of humanity. :)

Once again, thank you for the brilliant post. I'm sure it would make any girl's day who comes across this. It would tell her not all hope is lost, she's reverred and loved in this parochial society.

I pray strength and happiness for both of your friends.

*******

Coming to you, I have been bumping into your posts eveyr now and then on management paradise, PG, orkut aimcat community et al time and again . Thanks for all the help there too. :)

Thursday, July 23, 2009 8:44:00 AM  
Anonymous Punk Princess said...

@ Anon,
I wish you had probbed beneath the obvious and seen how these women are stupid.

I have come across many men who claim to be stimulated by intellectual women but at the end of day they turn down their noses on them and marry a girl who is STUPID> that makes their life easy, no questions asked, all lies believed, pati parmeshwar you see?

It is part of the conditioning that has seeped in our genes and also through the nurturing that the society provides to young nascent minds of the girls...marriage is your biggest achievement, being a mother the biggest accomplishment. [In case you adhere to any of the psychological school of thought - nurture or inheritance]

Why do so many girls choose to sacrifice their career to nurture the career of the man in their life who cribs in turn about screwing his life eh?

You seeing the glass half empty, while upto certain extent what you aid is true, why don't you make a change? Trust me, try motivating any such dumb girl towards something meaningful, if she is a good friend of yours, or if she's the girl who loves you, she will tread that path too.

We need men who beckon the enlightenment for women and not who put em down as perennially dumb.

I'll quote one more example, One of the oft said thing about girls not being good enough in science/math / esp mental math.
Have you ever realised how men as little boys are used to those mental calculations [you play cricket/ football, you keep tab of runs, run rate, strike rate etc etc] while girls play with dolls and playhouses [they are more efficient as communicators, better at expressing themselves, better grasp over language]. Instead of deprecating em, the need is to reduce and subsequently do away with such concepts. girls should be encouraged into sports early and more exposure to science (ask you sister to change the bulb/fuse/punctured tire or hold the soldering wire), guys into homely activities, to bridge the gap!

Once in a while you would see even middle aged men play gully cricket/ football in the rains with young boys. How many aunties have you witnessed enjoying themselves. Would you snigger if some aunty plays with the girls on the roads some day?

Thursday, July 23, 2009 8:58:00 AM  
Blogger Gaurav said...

@punk princess,

I agree with ur opinion, but most of the times, the differences arise between men and women because of their fundamental differences in thinking. I guess what Dr. Gray is saying is that these differences need to be understood to progress in a relationship. After all, even though a part of the humanity, God has made men and women biologically different !

p.s. Glad to know u've been following my posts all around. Maybe we can chat up someday. Tk care.

p.p.s Nice nick ! :P

Thursday, July 23, 2009 9:02:00 AM  

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