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Location: Noida, Uttar Pradesh, India

hmm... this is a toughie to answer, bcoz i feel i am a complicated fella whom others find it hard to understand, so i think its better u get to know me urself... i am a friendly, gentle and jovial person :) :) who takes life as it comes and believes in 'living in the moment' and not worrying too much about the future.... My passions include reading, writing, analysing problems & counselling and music.


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Monday, February 27, 2006

Sex Education in India

We Indians have almost succeeded in whatever we have laid our hands on.... whether it be sports, techonolgy, literature, etc etc..... and call ourselves one of the most developing economies in the world, yet we haven't changed our attitude..... Some of us still continue the same ignorant, hypocritical attitude...

India is the mother of great relics like vedas, shastras.... It is here that Maharishi Vystana developed the sacred text of kamasutra.... but still today, people run away when someone talks about sex.... Sex is considered as a taboo in our society and the people who talk about it are considered as lechers, villains.... if not monsters.. People close their eyes, block their ears to avoid listening to anything related to those three letters.... S. E. X.

Then how can we call ourselves modern or stay in such a society when the idealogy is flawed... How can anything related to sex be bad, if India has given birth to the greatest text related to it... Yet we are ignorant of how the human body works.... Even though we gave birth to this sacred text, yet we are ignorant about it after thousands of years....

Sex education is supposed to be one of the primal education a child should receive alongwith his/her primary education.... It is fine and important to know what is 2+2 or where are Himalayas.... but equally important to know the funcationality of human body (both male and female) and how its different organs work.

Yet, introduction of sex education in schools and colleges is still a controversial topic and people prefer to keep a distance from it.

But in the process, we tend to ignore one fact that sex is one of the natural aspects of human life and there is no sin in educating people about it.
Even in modern day societies, people refrain from talking about sexual education to their kids... results being that children are always confused about this tricky concept.... and even after reaching teenage, they still don't know anything about it... They satisfy their anxiety from their friends who themselves might be knowing half-truths... this way, even at the age of 22-23 boys and girls have a lot of wrong notions about sex...

What's more, just imagining that a country with the 2nd highest population in the world, has citizens who are not fully aware about sexual education, makes one wonder. People fail to realise the importance that sexual education imparts in making their children well informed about their body parts and their functionality. If boys and girls are well aware, then they will use adequate preventive measures to avoid any unnecessary births and will be well informed as to how deadly diseases likes Aids spread......

In everyday news, we come to know a lot on how many people in India are suffering from this disease due to their promiscuous habits. Many people are still not aware of birth control techniques due to which, they tend to have very large families!! They are not fully aware of the safe sex methods and hence the diseases. I think its high time that we give it a thought and realise it. There should not be any fear or inhibition in learning it as knowledge is never a bad thing.... We need to realise that sex and sexual education are as much important and natural as thing else.... We can't stand to be called hypocrites or nerds as longer and need to understand that including sex education in our curriculum is very necessary to make a well informed youth of tomorrow, who is not misled by misconceptions...

Saturday, February 25, 2006

A Nice Touching Story

I was really touched when I read this story. If this appeals to you, please do forward to person concerned whom you care .


His Mom Only Had One Eye


His mom only had one eye.
I hated her... she was such an embarressment..
my mom ran a small shop at a flea market.
she collected little weeds and such to sell...
anything for the money we needed
she was such an embarressment.
there was this one day during elementary school..
it was field day, and my mom came.
i was so embarressed. how could she do this to me? threw her a hateful look and ran out.

the next day at school...

"your mom only has one eye?!?!" ..and they taunted me.

i wished that my mom would just dissappear from this world so i said to my mom, "mom.. why dont you have the other eye?! if you're only gonna make me a laughingstock, why dont you just die?!!!" my mom did not respond.. i guess i felt a little bad, but at the same time, it felt
good to think that i had said what i'd wanted to say all this time..


maybe it was because my mom hadnt punished me, but i didnt think that i had hurt her feelings very badly.

that night...

i woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. my mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. i took a look at her, then turned away because of the thing i had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. even so, i hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye.
so i told myself that i would grow up and become successful. cause i hated &! nbsp;my one-eyed mom and our desperate poverty..

then i studied real hard.

i left my mother and came to Seoul and studied, and got accepted in the Seoul University with all the confidence i had. then, i got married.

i bought a house of my own.
then i had kids, too..
now i'm living happily as a successful man.

i like it here because it's a place that doesnt remind me of my mom.
this happiness was getting bigger and bigger, when..

what?!

who's this?!

...it was my mother...

..still with her one eye.
it felt as if the whole sky was falling apart on me.
my little girl ran away, scared of my mom's eye.
and i asked her, "who are you?!"
"i dont know you!!!" as if trying to make that real. i screamed at her," how dare you come to my house and scare my daughter!"

"GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!"

and to this, my mother quietly answered, "oh, i'm so sorry. i may have gotten the wrong address," and she dissappeared out of sight. thank good ness... she doesnt recognize me..
i was quite relieved.

i told myself that i wasnt going to care, or think about this for the rest of my life. then a wave of relief came upon me...

one day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. so, lying to my wife that i was going on a business trip, i went. after the reunion, i went down to the old shack, that i used to call a house...just out of curiosity

there, i found my mother fallen on the cold ground.

but i did not shed a single tear.
she had a piece of paper in her hand.... it was a letter to me.

my son...

i think my life has been long enough now..
and... i wont visit Seoul anymore...
but would it be too much to ask if i wanted you to come visit me once in a while? i miss you so much.. and i was so glad when i heard you were coming for the reunion. but i decided not to go to the school. ...for you... and i'm sorry that i only have one eye, and i was an embarressment for you.

you see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. as a mom, i couldnt stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... so i gave you mine... i was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. i was never upset at you for anything you did.. the couple
of times that you were angry with me,.. i thought to myself, 'it's because he loves me..'

my son... oh, my son...

i dont want you to cry for me, because of my death.
please dont cry...
my son, i love you so much

>>>>so folks don't be ashamed of your mom..pass this on to any moms,daughters and sons that you know.i just did...

have a blessed day everyone

Remember:
people will forget what you said ...
people will forget what you did ...
but people will never forget how you made them feel ..

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Soap Operas - Entertainment OR Taint-ment

Everynight i used to have strenuous arguments with my mom over the TV remote... reason being she enjoyed the saas-bahu soap operas which i loathed from every corner of my body.. I never understood (still don't !!) that what do all these mummies, bhabhies, aunties, and even uncles get from watching such a boring entertainment....

I can say, that presently there has been a plethora of soap operas... and almost all the TV channels viz. STAR, Zee, Sony, Sahara, etc have a chain of some the dumbest soap operas (this is my personal opinion, offcourse!) Almost all the soaps have just got fictitious drama... with all that rona-dhona.... capturing the minds of the viewers with bakwas melodrama! and due to this, even little children are so glued to their TV sets that they would even forget food and work! .... but who is to blame them.... they merely follow their elders....

But putting all that aside, the million dollar question is what is so special about these soap operas and what benefits do we get from them..... Easily i can say, NONE at all .There is not a single informative thing about them.... a person can get a lot of news and information from watching the News Channels, but what on Earth, will he get from watching these!!

These soaps merely play with the emotional sentiments of the viewers to keep them glued to their TV sets and folks keep watching one after the other.... some even straight for 3-4 hours...

The first thing is that it totally hampers the social life of people who get very little time from their daily jobs, and then spend the remaining time with the TV set and thus they don't get any time for themselves or for their children.

Soap operas have mainly masala and rarely teach anything about culture, that might be true... People get so infatuated with them, that they start to think of themselves as characters of the drama and start comparing the living conditions of their homes with those depicted in the soaps. This invites silliness as they forget that what they're watching is merely a fiction and it doesn't have any connection with real life....

Soap operas have actually hampered the lives of the people where-by all their creativity is lost... they merely sit in front of their idiot box rather than making use of their time for productivity.. and hence losing conciousness over their real life....

I think, these soap operas bring in more 'taint-ment' rather than entertainment and people really get confused between reel and real life.......

Sunday, February 19, 2006

A sad poem for the broken hearts but truely awesome!!


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Sunday, February 12, 2006

A man known as Gaurav Mittal

Its already 2006.... and i haven't ever blogged in my life ... not even once.....

This thought struck me one fine day..... i thought, what the heck, lets give it a shot and see what's blogging all about..... Not bad..eh! I mean, i actually dislike the idea of advertising myself.... but blogging certainly is different.... gives u a chance to express ur views.

So i thought, let me write the 1st blog on myself.... aka Gaurav Mittal....

Now u would have read my complete profile at the top the page, but here i would like to tell u about my life and my experiences.

Well God decided to courier me to mumma's belly on 1st Aug '83 and viola.... i came out... a little sticky and yuccky messy little thing...!!! but all well

After that began the perils of childhood.... Things were pretty ok... and i enjoyed my life... not too bad!! At that time, i was put up in delhi and my house was in Janak Puri (later we shifted to Vikas Puri). There i used to goto St. Marks Senior Secondary Public School, Janak Puri....

School life was fun.... as long as there was KARAN... We had loads of entertainment together. We were almost inseperable... Tell u the fact, we used be the most talkative lot in the school, so talkative that all the teachers and the prefect were annoyed by our habits... and made us sit seperately. Yet distance was never an issue for us... Somehow one used to sneek back to the other to continue all the chit-chatting, the fun, and the laughter....!!!!

We are (still!!) the best buds... even after many many years of living apart from each other, i can still recall the days when we were punished by our teachers but yet managed to stay together at all times... So strong was our friendship, that in 1997, when my dad was transferred to Bombay, we literally cried .. I liked hanging out at karan's house because it was pretty big and used to give us complete privacy. We could talk everything in the world that we wanted to.. I still remember the last day of our 7th std exam when we walked all the way back from school just to spend as much time together as possible, before i move to bombay.

But as someone has said... Gud and bad things just don't last long!!

1997 we moved to Bombay.... the best city i have ever seen.... full of life....

Initially, things were tough as i couldn't get an admission nearby and had to travel all the way to Colaba (i was staying in goregaon, near film city). This meant getting up everyday at around 5:30 a.m. and leaving for school by 6 a.m. Changing two buses and a train was very hectic in the starting... atleast for the guy who had always been clutching to daddy's hand everywhere.... but then, that life of b'bay taught me a lot and made me more independent... Moreover, it was my 1st experience of travelling alone, meeting new people, new places.... and doing everything by myself... and, it was fun....

The fast local trains of bombay, which run dot on time, ever over-crowded... people flooded inside as though they are in a fish market... and trying their best to get a seat... I was lucky, for folks were sometimes very generous to offer their seats.

Bombay, is a city which never sleeps.... dymanic, full of life... people running hither-and-thither for earning their livelihood... one might think that no one would care for anybody in such a place.... but i can still remember an incident, very vividly....

Once it was raining very hard and we were stuck in the school. All the buses had stopped running. Even after waiting for an hour, we couldn't get a bus.... I was thinking that probably, i would not be able to reach home before night.. there were a few taxis, but i never had enough money with me to take a taxi... Suddenly a taxi-wallah, came up to me after sensing my desperation. I told him about my situation, and he generously offered to drop me at the Colaba station... without even asking for any money....

Well.... i had to go to that school only for a few days, after which i got a transfer to a nearby school... KV. Hamla, Malad... It was situated in a naval areas and there were many kids whose dads were navy officers..

Well life was good here too.... except for the normal travails that a fresher finds in a new school or college... Life gave me a chance to meet another guy, who later became my best bud ... SAYAK... Sayak and me started out with a small fight or rather a nasty argument... he was probably trying out to be a bit smart or something, but honestly i always liked his attitude and personality... which was uniqely differentt from others.... I also met another guy named Siddharth... We three formed a sort of a gang, a trio... a closely knit pack of friends who could always be seen together, whether in the playground chatting away without caring for the rest of the world... or in the class-room, still doing the same thing... !!!

We three were distinctly different from the rest... for i found so much in Sayak... a true friend, a guide, a mentor....which I couldn’t see in anyone else. He never gossiped about anything or anyone unecessarily and we used to have very knowledge-able discussions whether it be about Indian politics or the attractive girls in our class or even on the adult movies which we used to watch.... We actually had 'Sayakologics' and 'Gauravologics' and both the 'logics' used to be a sort of a brainstorming session during the discussions.

But honestly, Sayak was a true friend from whom i could learn a lot. Never ever felt lonely and he was not the kind of a guy who would just praise u for nothing or advice u on something which is impossible. He was always frank with me and that is what drew me close to him... There was this famous batata-vada shop which used to be our popular hangout.... We did all types of activities here... from crackling jokes to discussing on various topics to even talking about (hmm.. or rather learning about) the female anatomy.

In true words, ours was a friendship, quite different from the rest and i always found a deep meaning in it... not just about two people talking nonsense, but about two brothers ready to do anything for each other.
We even had used to hang out on the desolated area above the stairs, which we had christened as 'colosseum' where we used to do some friendly wrestling.

Well as i said earlier, that probably God wasn't quite in the mood for me to keep me happy this long.... and within 2 years... 2 magnificient years, dad got transferred to Chennai.... in 1998.

Now chennai was an entirely different country.... a place where people talked something which went above my head... and wore lungis or mundus in the market place, which i didn't even like to wear at my home.... Life was very dull here and infact very lonely as well... I badly missed all my bombay fun. But as they say, that when u can't beat them, u should join them.... Slowly, i started getting adjusted to the chennai life.... trying to understand what people say and their customs... I realised that there is a very vast difference between North and South.... and likewise, people in south are entirely different from north.... the way they speak, they way they dress, they eat, etc etc

My 1st year in chennai was quite busy.... It was the year when i had to face board exams and i was deep buried under my books.... I didn't even realise how fast the whole year passed away and i cleared my boards with very good results... Basically life here was quite dull... with people being quite reserved (this is purely my perception) and i didn't have any close friends here... Gradually my life moved on.... completing my 11th and then, 12th from chennai.... with the only exception that since we had a lot of people from north india in 11th and 12th std.... we used to have more fun....

My life account of chennai would be incomplete without the mention of some of my class teachers... namely Mrs. Padmavathy, Mrs. Suraja and Mr. Ullalgalanal (the guy had a very weird name)

Well, they were some of the teachers of whom i can be so proud to say that i got a chance to study under them.... esp padmavathy ma'm, who taught me and showed me the real meaning of a teacher and a house-wife. She used to manage her responsibilities and duties very nicely. In true terms, i still consider her as my idol... for creating an ever-lasting image in my mind... Though, i couldn't get too many chances to see her after i left chennai, but i pray to God for her well being, wherever she might be.....

Well... after 18 years of life, and having enjoyed some of it and seeing all kinds of people on this Earth, i was destined to move to cochin for my graduation, even though i wrote 11 entrance exams, of which cochin was the best deal....

Life in the college was a totally different experience... full of fun, responsibilities, work-load, excitement, seperation, et al. Frankly, it teaches u a lot of things... it taught me a lot of things... The guy who never did anything by himself, like, who had never ever washed a cloth by himself or cleaned the floor or even booked a railway ticket, had to do all these things ... all by himself... and i feel very proud to say, that these 4 years really shaped me into the man i am today. At first, things seemed to be very tough..... the seperation from the family, used to be grueling, really unbearable, but slowly things started to set... and i was able to set into my college life quite well.
Here i met new people, from all walks of life.... some were good, some unfriendly... some had a true heart, while others were selfish... Basically, it made me wiser and more self-reliant... and offcourse, more experienced too....

Every day was a challenge in cochin, dealing with different people, whether it be in ur class, in ur flat, the grocery store... in the market... or even with the common man u casually see... For the first time, when i moved into a flat with 4 other guys, i stayed there as a group... There were responsibilites, like household management, purchasing of groceries... facing each and every problem as a group and we worked out pretty fine.... This life taught me a lot on how to manage things, how to manage people, difficulties and my own life.....

Today, i feel i have come across a whole lot of world.... a world which is full of love, hatred, laughter, gloom, sensitivity, hard heartedness, et al.. yet i keep myself cheerful.... I do not let myself be bogged down by the unhappy happenings around me. I think it is because of the few people for whom I care and love them the most.... who are more important to me than the entire world....

So.... this is me.... Gaurav.... and this is the story of my life.....